Take Out The Trash!
- Charissa Cruz
- Mar 15, 2019
- 3 min read
Updated: Jul 18, 2020
I have not posted in a while. A lot has happened! I started back to school, again, in February. It took me a looong time to make this decision. Mostly out of concern for adding more school debt. But, I am excited about my NEW JOURNEY! I am taking psychology with an emphasis in Biblical studies at Colorado Christian University! I am in the last week of my first class. I will be coming back to give updates and share more "nuggets" and news as I go.
God has been doing some very exciting things in my life! He is moving and changing some areas that have needed my attention for some time. I believe He is "cleaning house" or "taking out the trash". By that I mean that he is leading me to rid my life of relationships and situations that are no longer bringing "life" to me. (if, in fact, they ever did) I have always been a "fixer", which can lead to unhealthy relationships on many levels. I love people and I want to help them. I used to find myself in relationships that should have been more of a friend or mentor situation but now I am romantically involved and trying to fix all of the broken areas of their life by either, loving them enough, or by counseling them. I had the best of intentions and I loved these people; however, I needed to put the right name on the type of love I had for them.
The greatest thing God could have done and has done in this area is to reveal to me who I am, to Him. This came after much seeking, and prayer, on my part. I love how gentle He is with us but how directly He addresses our weaknesses and shortcomings. Such love!
I am finally at a place that I can start to believe what and who He says I am. With the knowledge and truth of knowing who God made me to be, I can see that I have accepted far less than what He had planned for my life.
Often we blame God for our pitiful lives and the truth is, we made decisions that placed us in the situations we are in. We believe the lies of the enemy, like, "you don't deserve the best!", or "God won't do that for you, only others will be blessed". This couldn't be further from the truth!! God is a good father, the best, and we are his children! He wants to bless us with good things in our lives. Our relationships included. So, He is moving out those that are no longer bringing me life, are draining me, or distracting me from my calling. I have told him many times to do this if need be. Usually, the ones that shouldn't be there start "dropping like flies". I always let them back in because of my need to help them, I feel bad about hurting them, or I miss them in some way. Don't get me wrong, we are intended to help others, but our healthy boundaries must be in place. We should not allow "everyone" into our inner circle to speak into our lives. I thank God that he guards me and when I open myself to his direction, he can do amazing things in my life!
What things can you release to him?
Have you asked him to have his way in ALL areas of your life?
Ask him who you are to HIM...ask until you hear the answer. I asked for at least two years. The answer was clear and profound. It is worth the time to ask.

Take Out The Trash!
What things are in your way?